My parents are visiting this weekend. It was an off again on again trip. It was off as recently as Sunday. I found out it was on again via my mom’s Facebook wall.
I found out that what I perceived to be my mother’s respectfulness during their last visit was a front. I knew it was too good to be true. On their last visit, they voluntarily made themselves scarce during naptime which was awesome for us because otherwise my mom talked to whichever baby she was holding NONSTOP so the poor baby couldn’t take a nap if his life depended on it. Plus, I needed a break since a bunch of adults just sitting around a NYC apartment is claustrophobic. I was thrilled that she offered to give us a break every now and then.
She recently told my brother that I kicked her out of our apartment several times a day so the babies could nap so she never got more than 1.5 hours with them at a time. WTF?! She OFFERED to give us a break each time. I never asked or hinted that they should go. I was surprised and thankful that she offered.
It’s like she’s holding her own actions and decisions against me. Like she knew giving us space was the right thing to do, but it totally went against her desires and it’s eating her up. She’s mad I didn’t try to stop her when she offered to leave. I think she wanted me to insist that they stay. Ridiculous.
I’m dreading this visit even more now. To top it off, they’re leaving the day BEFORE we move so they’ll really be of no help. Actually, they’ll probably be more of a hindrance. We’re hiring movers to pack the day of and move us, but we still have to prepare things and doing that with my parents sitting around won’t be easy.
I am really not excited at all. Plus my mom’s emotions are totally out of whack. She cried and hung up on me the other day (I called her; she only texts) because the boys might not remember her at Christmas. Umm, you’re right. They won’t. THEY’RE BABIES!
Ugh, please fast forward to next weekend. I swear my mom creates more stress for me than being a mom to twins, making a move, and gearing up to go back to work combined.