Just read this article. I hope she decides to do IVF and that she gets her baby. Anyone who wants a baby — especially those who have TTCd for years — deserve their baby.
Here’s a snippet:
IVF, personhood, and the Two-Week Wait.
During our Two Week Waits, my husband and I often take walks to the river near our house. Among couples trying to conceive (or TTC, as it’s known among people who have been trying for a while), the Two Week Wait is the wait between ovulation and a positive or negative pregnancy test. Online message boards are filled with advice about what to do during the Two Week Wait—go to the movies or out to dinner, take a yoga class, get a massage, anything to get your mind off the question of pregnancy. We have never been good at taking our minds off of anything.
We’ve also been TTC for long enough that we don’t expect a pregnancy, not really. For a while, particularly when we were treating our infertility with oral medications and intrauterine insemination, it seemed like every river walk involved a conversation about what if: What if this is the month? What if our child is born in January, February, March? The months fly by, 47 of them, and it’s time to make decisions about our next step.
Last month I did something different during the Two Week Wait: I visited an embryologist in her university laboratory. It has become clear to me, to my husband, and to our reproductive endocrinologist that IVF is the treatment most likely to overcome our infertility. But there are big questions: about the cost, about how we will feel if we try and fail, about the ethical considerations of spending so many resources creating a life that has not happened naturally, the way it does for most couples.
You can read the entire article here.